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Morning Meditation: {Don’t Think of Elephants}

I was chasing the sun. A common thing. Early in the morning. An uncommon thing.  But it’s what I needed to do. So Ronin and I drove to the banks of the Mighty Mississippi, which is where the sun was hanging out.

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Ronin is my good buddy.

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I’ve lived by the Mississippi for years and years. I’ve watched full moons and red moons rise over it. I’ve seen it high and rushing, full of branches and limbs as big as boats. I’ve seen it so low it showed its secrets–wing dams and dry banks. I’ve seen it whipped so hard by the wind that whitecaps stood up like ocean waves. I’ve seen it in the dark with only lights from the bridge reflecting on its dark surface. But I’d never seen it at dawn. I didn’t realize that until I was standing there watching the mist rise off the water like some otherworldly veil, softening the sounds of the river as it flowed past.

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The riverfront here is a combination of paved areas and old hand-laid rough cobblestones. You can walk along it for a long way in either direction, and you can walk right into the water if you like. Something caught Ronin’s attention, and he was trying–as only a dog can–to inhale the entire world through his nose. I followed him, curious about what had him so excited. We walked right to the edge of the embankment, several feet above the water, and looked down. There was a dead fish floating–half a silver carp–very big, staring up at us. Mystery solved. I wondered how it had died, why it was there. Then I caught something out of the corner of my eye. Immediate recognition. A few feet to the left, nestled between some sharp rocks, an unmistakable shape under the water.

Ganesha.

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I asked Ronin to wait for me and climbed over the edge of the embankment onto the rocks below. Ganesh was glowing orange with the light of the dawn, the colors soft under the muddy water. And there it was. The whyness of my morning.

Ganesha, the Remover of All Obstacles, the god of new beginnings.

We said thank you to the river, goodbye to the dawn. We stood and waited patiently for a morning train to pass; it’s tracks run right between the river and the street where we parked. It’s the only place I know where you can stand so close to a passing train that you could touch it, jump on for a ride. And nobody thinks anything of it. Small town. Ganesh rode in the passenger seat as I drove us all home. I washed the river off him and anointed him with butter, and now he sits in our kitchen where he is very happy to look over things from the heart of the house. And obstacles are being removed.

The elephant in the room is my atheishness. But I’ve learned not to overthink these things. Gifts from the Universe take many forms, and we are fools to think they will only come in one flavor–no matter how we try to construct our reality. So follow what pulls you, keep your eyes open for shapes in the water, and listen to your dogs. That is how you catch a wave and surf the Universe–nimbly and joyously and always, always with gratitude.

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There Has Been

Traveling to northerly places (and giant orange asterisks)…

Leaves leaving…

Restless snappers chasing reflections…

Giant squashes waiting to roast in my oven…

Much needed rain and rain and rain…

Mysterious nightshades and their thousand lanterns…

Ordinary, not ever ordinary…

Okra…

Things to remind me of childhood…

The Mighty Mississippi…

Furious weaving everywhere…

Oars Paddles in the water…

Long walks in the woods with my best buddy…

Making friends with the genius loci by making apologies for trashy people…

Bunches and bunches of marigolds…

And settling in to autumn.

Lay in the grass, bask in the sun, work hard, remember to play, dream vividly, wake happily, eat lots of soup–even for breakfast. And if you’re lucky, knit a row or two. ;)

 

At the Burrow DyeTable # Two: Harvest Moon Dyeing

When better to dye with the bounty of a late summer harvest than under the harvest moon?   Saturday night I stayed up until the wee hours of the morning dyeing more yarn in the first exhaust of the pokeberry dyebath.   Ronin and the full moon kept me company.  We’re going to see just how much colour we can get out of this pot.

Dye Notes:

All of the dye notes for this first bath are identical in method to the first pokeberry dyebath.  The only notable exceptions are the following:

Yarn:  I used both Paradise Fibers 4-ply undyed wool and Mountain Meadow Cody.  Both were mordanted in vinegar as before, only this time because I was dyeing 250g fiber, I used 1.5 c. of distilled white vinegar.

Ratio of dyestuff to fiber:  I left the dyepot exactly as it was the night before, which means that it still had the 2800g pantyhose bag of pokeberries in it.  At this weight of fiber, our ratio is now only roughly 11:1, and that does not take into account that it is an exhaust bath which means a substantial amount of dye has already been used out of it.  So the actual ratio is incalculable.  By me anyway.

Dyebath:  The only difference with how I did this dyebath is that I paid closer attention to how much heat I actually had to give it to keep the temperature in the 160-180F range.  It was surprisingly little.  I brought the temp of the dyebath up while I mordanted the yarn in the vinegar/water.  Once the yarn was transferred to the dyebath, I kept a timer counting down 15 minute intervals.  From 180F, with no heat on the burner, it only lost maybe 3 or 4 degrees in 15 minutes.  So basically, I just fired up the campstove for 1 minute every 15 minutes to keep the temperature between 175-180F.  The rest of the time it was off.  This save SO MUCH propane.   Once it was up to temp, I only turned the stove on for 8 minutes in 2 hours.  And it allowed me to not have to worry about the pot overheating.  Instead I enjoyed the quiet of 2am and knit on my EarthSea socks.

After the 2 hour dyebath, I left the skeins in the pot to cool until morning—about 6 hours—and then hung them up to dry in the shade.  This time in the dyebath is about half of what the first skeins had.  This was not intentional, just the way my day dictated.

Then my friends Hollie and Patrick and I went to the Strange Folk Festival to check out all the crafts.  My friend E was there helping Martha with the baskets at her booth.  I wish I’d had my camera with me, because her booth and the baskets and carved gourds were gorgeous.  So inspiring.  E and I are planning to do a hickory stool workshop with Martha in the spring when the hickory bark is ready to harvest.  Am so excite!  After the festival, we came back to rinse the skeins—so they were hanging for about 7 hours.  They rinsed clean after only a few water changes.  They are slightly but noticeably lighter than what came out of the first dyebath.

Here are skeins from the original dyebath and the first exhaust bath together so you can see the difference.  We went from damson to raspberry.

I’ll be writing about the second exhaust bath in the next couple days.  I’m really interested to see how the reduction of dyestuff to fiber effects fastness.  I’m hoping these colours stick around for a long time.  I think they’re gorgeous.

Live happy, dye happy!

Intersections

If we could stand in the cold vastness of the Cosmos and see our lives from the height of stars and nebulae, would we see the web of threads running this way and that, crossing, tangling, binding and pulling all our lives together on this little planet?  I try to do this in my mind’s eye sometimes, to step back and visualize connections, intersections—to force my self to mentally travel down different paths if for no other reason than to remember that other realities exist outside my own.  We tend to get very wrapped up in our own side of the story, the one that only exists from our own perspective.  We are deafened by our internal monologues, blinded by judgement, opinion, and self-interest.  And we forget that all around us, in every moment, other stories are being played out, and they are just as important (to someone) as our own.

Of course, these stories don’t just belong to people.  They belong to every thing in existence.   It is possible to open our awareness, to cut the chatter just long enough to see the connectedness of ourselves to everything around us, to glimpse the world from another’s eyes.   My dog taught me this.

Ronin, happiest on the trail

His name is Ronin, our name for him.  We know only fragments of his life before.  He was a rescue—taken by the Humane Society from a life of neglect and hunger in a raid at a dangerously over-populated, seriously under-funded no kill facility in a small town in Missouri.  I didn’t go to the Humane Society looking for a dog that day, had no intention of adopting another one since we were in the midst of heartache with our mastiff dying from bone cancer.  But Ronin and I found each other in one of those heart-stopping, breath-catching moments where the world stands still for a second and your path becomes clear.  We stared at each other hard for a few minutes, and that was it.  Well, there was more to it, but the point is that when you find a soul dog, you are honor-bound to give him a home.  And belly scratches.

The first months with Ronin were difficult as we all adjusted to this new situation.  Neither one of us was able to let down our guard much.  In that first month, I lost Knowledge, who was the happiest, most secure and loving dog in the world.  It was hard living with this new dog who jumped every time someone moved (Knowledge was used to us stepping over him as he slept in the middle of everything), who jumped the fence and ran away at every opportunity (Knowledge wouldn’t leave the house or yard for anything), who expected to be hit or not to be fed (Knowledge always expected to be fed and never knew an unkind hand).  Little by little, we got the hang of things.  We took frequent walks, and he responded so well to them that this became our first medium of true communication.  He learned commands in reverse, me praising him and rewarding him when he, on his own, figured out what needed to be done.  This was all done without words, because words didn’t make sense yet.  Sometimes they just made things worse.   Our walks stabilized Ronin’s life and allowed us to become more confident in one another.   I taught him to sit while out on walks—every time he’d walk out in front of me, I’d stop and stand still.  He’d walk around me and sniff things and wonder why we weren’t moving, but eventually, he sat down.   I immediately gave him a pat and started walking again.  We did this over and over.  Three days later, he sat every time I stopped.  A month later, he sat by my side and looked up at me.  Eventually, I put it with a hand signal, and then finally with a word.  This is how we learned to communicate.  This is how we became friends.  Slowly, slowly.

I don’t want to give the impression that Ronin was a shy dog.  That was never the case.  He would be better described, even still, as reserved.  That first day when I asked to see him at the Humane Society, I could tell that despite his uncertainty, he was curious.  He wanted interaction, he just wasn’t sure what the outcome would be.  He was an interesting mix of cautious and hesitant, and yet interested and intelligent.  He is still very much that way today.  Ronin is a gentleman.  A little rough around the edges, but naturally well-behaved and even-tempered.   He has never shown any signs of aggression whether from dominance or fear, but at the same time, he is steady and sure of his abilities, especially around other dogs.  He is able to command respect and hold his own without being assertive or bullyish.  He takes up his space.  He is sure of himself in this world.  Just not of anyone else.

It was this quiet yet definite sense of self that made me notice him in the first place, even though at the time I couldn’t put my finger on it.  Later, it was this quality that forced me over and over again to remember not to just see him as the family pet, but as a dog with a soul and personality and thoughts of his own.  With Knowledge, this came easily.  He’d been with us from his birth, really.  We knew him, and he knew us.   It was harder with Ronin.  It took a conscious effort.  It took constant reminding.  It took knowing that every time he looked at me, he was asking for patience, for consistency, for kindness.  He was also thanking me by doing his best to fit in, trying to do what was asked of him.  This made me work even harder to understand his world, his life, from his point of view.

It is a choice one makes, to look behind and beyond what is apparent on the surface, to dig deeper and find connections.  When you make the choice, you become responsible for it, because once you become aware you cannot become unaware again.  It’s hard enough to do this with people, but to learn this lesson from a dog, well, that was unexpected.  I am very thankful that my life intersected with Ronin’s.  I think our stories are better for it.

 

 

 

 

 

In Memoriam

I’m going to tell you a story about the life of Knowledge.

Once upon a time, on a farm deep in the Ozark woods, a very special dog was born.  He was one of nine, the runt of the mother’s first litter.

And he was dying.

We had just gone down to The Farm to visit my parents.  I didn’t even know that they had bred their pair of mastiffs.  My dad asked if I wanted to see the pups, and off we went to the barn where he’d set up a cozy and quiet place for the mom and litter.   Mastiff puppies look like little sausages.  They are roly-poly, chubby little chunks of furry cuteness.  Really, it’s almost painful.  There they all were, eagerly nursing and mewing.   All except for one.  One little guy was laying very still in the corner of the pen, too weak even to try to crawl to his mother; his mother too inexperienced to know to bring him back with the others.  Things looked grim.

But, we can’t just let a roly-poly little sausage-puppy die!  Not on my watch.  So I rolled up my sleeves and got to work.

Have you ever tried milking a dog?  It’s not easy–especially when you’re competing with a litter of puppies.  Luckily, one of my dad’s sheep had just had a lamb.  So I milked the sheep instead.  Not as easy as milking a goat, but easier than milking a mastiff.  We took the failing pup and our precious container of fresh sheep’s milk back to the house where it would be easier to care for him.

My dad’s a doctor.  And a rancher at heart.  Our farm was an animal farm, not a crop farm, and he has always kept it well stocked with medical supplies for the inevitable times when animals need to be patched up.  So, it was no surprise that he had a small syringe and a wee little intubation tube.  This made feeding the puppy much easier and safer, as he was too weak to suck or swallow.  We gave him tiny little bits of the sheep’s milk every half hour or so.  In between feedings, I kept him warm by snuggling him up against my skin.  I’ve done a lot of reading into attachment parenting, breastfeeding, natural birth, etc., and a lot of that research cites animal studies showing the need for touch and skin contact to stimulate the nervous and respiratory systems.  So I kept him against my skin and gently massaged him up and down his spine.  I also knew that if not licked by their mother, newborn puppies will die because it is the licking that signals them to use the bathroom.  So I took a warm, wet washcloth and imitated a mother’s licking to help him pee.   A little weird, but totally effective.   So, yeah.  Feeding sheep’s milk through a tube, constant skin contact, massage, and a wet washcloth on his puppy-junk.   For 12 hours.

The day he almost died.

After 12 hours, we had to go.  It was a long drive back to the city, wondering if he would live.   But the next day, I got a call from my dad saying that our effort had worked.  He was not only alive, but able to nurse on his own.  WOOT!   Happeh little sausage-puppeh lives!

And then 10 weeks later, I got another call from my dad.  This time he said that it was time to come take my puppy home.  What?!  No, no, no.  I mean, I LOVE dogs, but a mastiff?  In our little house in the city?  How was that going to work?  But he was insistent that since I’d saved his life, he was now connected to me.  And damn it, he was right.  So on June 4th, 2006, we took our little sausage-puppy home.  And we named him Knowledge.

Knowledge at approximately 10 weeks

We loved him, and he was sweetness itself.  And he grew a little bit…

And a little bit more…

And whoa, he kept growing!

Until finally sometime around 3 years old, he decided he’d grown enough.  He weighed 180 pounds.   Dude, we had to buy a new car—one that would fit the kids and the dog.   And you know what?  Living with this dog was wonderful.  Slobbery slingers and all.  (If you don’t know, a slinger is mastiff-owner slang for the long strings of drool that mastiffs have a tendency to leave all over the house.  No, really.  ALL OVER THE HOUSE.  Floor, walls, ceiling.  Yeah.)

Knowledge was laid-back.

He was also playful.

A mastiff’s jowls run at a different speed than the rest of the mastiff. LOL.

It was hard to find good toys for a dog this size.  We ultimately settled on basketballs.  Well, he settled on our son’s basketball, and we realized that he was right–it was the most appropriate choice.  Although, they didn’t last long.

Knowledge is thankful for basketballs

He could literally put his entire jaw around a basketball and pop it.  And he did it with such joy that it was hard to get upset that we had to buy a new one every couple months.   He happily played with the deflated ones.  He liked to play fetch and tug and soccer.   And, man, could he run fast for such a huge, lumbering thing.   We loved playing ball with Knowledge.

Knowledge was a wonderful family dog.  He was part of the family.  He loved the kids and was ever patient with all the goings-on in a busy house.  He liked to be wherever we were, whether laying down by us in the living room, sleeping next to the kids’ beds or while we cooked in the kitchen.  Especially, when we cooked in the kitchen.   He loved pretty much all food, swallowing most of it down his gaping maw in one gulp.  He particularly liked bananas.  It was hard to deny that dog a banana.  He would just look at you with so much hope in his eyes.

Knowledge had a great sense of humour, too.  He was funny.  Not in a cheeky, mischievous way.  Just in an innocent, joyful way.   And while he looked ferocious to people who couldn’t see past his size, we knew better.  Knowledge was full of love.

The “ferocious” dog is actually smiling as my son tickles him.

Knowledge was also ridiculously silly.

This was going to be a nice picture of the two of us—then he licked the side of my head right before the shutter clicked.

And very tolerant of our silliness, too.

Knowledge helping me show Ravelry that not all knitters are cat people

We took him with us everywhere that we could.  He wasn’t great with the heat of Missouri summers or with long walks.  His hind end had poor conformation— he had extreme luxation in his rear hocks which caused his thigh muscles to atrophy.  This didn’t stop him from getting around or running, but it did make hiking with him difficult.  His favorite place to go was The Farm.  He LOVED swimming in the lake.  It not only cooled him, but it took the weight off his joints.  Knowledge was big, but not fat.  His 180 lbs was a very lean 180. He just had wonky joints.  What’s a dog to do?

It was after such a trip to The Farm last year that I noticed him limping.  It wasn’t unusual for him to overdo things there, so I didn’t think too much of it.  But a few days later, he was still limping.  I figured he pulled something and took him to the vet just to check things out.   The x-ray results were a bomshell.   From out of nowhere:  osteosarcoma of the right distal radius.  Fucking bone cancer.  My sweet, sweet puppy had bone cancer.

If you don’t know anything about bone cancer in dogs, it’s actually very similar in many ways to bone cancer in humans.  The prognosis is grim:  it grows quickly in the young,  is typically metastasized by the time it’s diagnosed, is excrutiatingly painful, and the treatments suck.   The standard protocol is full amputation of the affected limb followed by chemo.   The amputation won’t stop the spread of the cancer—in fact, studies  show that removing the mother tumor actually can cause the mets to grow faster.  No, the amputation is strictly for pain management.  The chemo only to hold the mets at bay.

We were told early on by both our vet and the oncologist we saw that because of his wonky hind end, Knowledge was not a candidate for amputation anyway.  The next option was chemo.  But after doing a lot of research and talking to friends who are vets or work for vets, we decided that it just wasn’t worth the maybe 6 months he’d gain from the chemo to have him feeling even more sick and stressed and miserable from the treatments.   We were told of test treatments that were being done at some nearby universities.  Calls to those departments revealed that one treatment would involve injecting our dog with radioactive substances and then leaving him in alone in a radiation isolation ward FOR A WEEK.  My Bubbie alone for a week?  Get out.  And then we were told that when we brought him home, we would have to limit our contact with him further because he’d STILL BE RADIOACTIVE.  A person actually said these words to me.    And I thought, are we really being kind to our dog trying to heal him through such inhumane treatments?  No.  Not a freaking chance.

We looked up alternative treatments and even tried a few.  For weeks, all I did was research bone cancer.  I was on boards and forums.  I read the stories of countless other people who had gone or were going through the same thing with their pets.   This time was a study in hope and desolation.   Some piece of information would seem promising, would provide a tiny glimmer of a chance.    But the final conclusion was always the same.  Always.  The.  Same.  Nothing would cure him.   The only hope at this point was to provide effective palliative care.  Pain meds and herbs.  That was what was left for us and our poor puppy.  He wasn’t yet even 5 years old.

Finally, I had to back away from the interwebz and stop researching.  My buddy had months to live.   We wanted to spend every minute of that giving him belly rubs and playing ball.  So we did.   We tried our best to be happy and relaxed and normal so that our emotions wouldn’t stress him out.  Because you know what?  Through all of this, all of the pain, he was happy and relaxed and normal.  He was our same puppy—just with a really bad limp.  He still ran and played.  His appetite was as big as he was.  Only every now and again did he have a really hard time.  But even then showed us that he wasn’t done yet.   We watched him carefully, dreading the time when he would really start to deteriorate, fearing a catastrophic fracture now that his tumor had grown to the size of a baseball.

It was a few months later that while waiting for the script for his pain meds to be filled at the Humane Society, that I found another dog who desperately needed a home.  Another big dog.   Ronin’s story is for another time.  But I bring this up, because Knowledge helped welcome this new dog into our home.  Ronin had been horribly neglected, but Knowledge showed him that we were good people, that things were going to be ok.  Knowledge helped show him how to be a dog again.  And Ronin was a good playmate for Knowledge.  He cheered Knowledge up and was a calm companion when we had to leave the house.  They were good for each other.

And then in the middle of the night, a month after we adopted Ronin, Knowledge came to us clearly not feeling well.  He just wasn’t right.  It very quickly became apparent that he was suffering a gastric torsion—bloat.  And that was it.  We knew the time had come.  Just like that.  There was no point in putting him through an operation, not with his tumor as progressed as it was.  We knew, as we called in to the emergency vet, that we had to say goodbye.   Knowledge actually got up off the floor and walked to the car.   I think he knew there was no easy way we could have carried him.  My husband and I gently put him in the back, and I sang to him and pet him and kissed him good bye.  It was so fast—so much shorter than I wanted—but we didn’t want him to suffer any more.

I had to stay with the kids.  My husband held him when they put him to sleep.  He says it was fast, peaceful.  Then he brought his body home.  We had already decided to bury Knowledge at The Farm.  So at 4 o’clock in the morning, we loaded our sad and sleepy family into the car and drove his body to be buried.  We picked a spot under the trees beside the lake.  His favorite place to be.    We all dug—me, my husband, the kids, and my dad.  We dug his grave and laughed and told stories about Knowledge.  But, boy was putting his body in that grave hard.  We buried him with his basketball.  Filled in the grave and put a marker that my daughter made on top.

My friend always

A lot of people just don’t get dogs, will never understand their intelligence and unconditional love.  The fact that they have personalities and thoughts and feelings.  This was a member of our family.    And I might not believe in any gods, but I know that dogs have souls just as sure as people do.   Death is as natural as life.  It is to be expected.  I don’t have a problem with that.  But it doesn’t stop it from being hard.  It doesn’t stop the missing.   I like to think of Knowledge as being one with the Cosmos now.  He’s still with us.

So, this is in memory of Knowledge, who died on June 5th, 2011.  It’s been a year today, and I still miss him.  He was my friend, and he taught me a great deal about how to live life with humour and graciousness, and without complaint.   Ever in good spirits  and always with love.

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